Business coaching for people pleasers; you matter too | Phil Drinkwater

Business coaching for people pleasers

Available online throughout London, the UK and internationally.

I help you put yourself first more often by discovering what you really want and supporting you in choosing that instead.

About 35% of people prioritise the happiness of others. If you’re on the moderate to extreme end, it can be hard to grow a business because you care more about other people than yourself.

This leads to stress, confusion, and anger, which further hurts your business.

My unique process lets put yourself first by designing the right response and learning how to handle the discomfort of delivering it.

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What Business Coaching isn't...

Business coaching isn't just for large corporations

60% of the business owners I work with employ only a few handfuls of people, and 20% are startups and entrepreneurs. Only 20% are larger.

Business coaching isn't stuffy

This is a real and genuine conversation between two humans who have one goal; helping you to succeed. (And we'll laugh too!)

Business coaching isn't pushy

I won't be angry if you don't complete what you decide to, but I will be interested in "why" since it will lead to profound new knowledge for you.

Be honest .. does any of this seem familiar?

You get a “gut feel” that you don’t want to do something, but you do it anyway

Even though your emotions are telling you to say "no", you still say "yes" and you don't know why

You sometimes feel bullied into doing things that suit others

This has led to you feeling that other people push you around.

You notice that other peoples opinions matter more than your own

If you don't get their agreement, at times you will change your path. (This is called being externally referenced)

You feel responsible for other people and their emotions

You worry about how others think and feel, leading to you feeling responsible for their happiness.

It’s uncomfortable to be bold, without adding a weakening statement at the end

Your communications are always weakened, and people sometimes take advantage of this.

This is affecting your business and, deep down, you’re angry with yourself

You give yourself a hard time, but you still don't do what's right for you.

You don’t know how to fix this problem

This has been affecting your business for a while, and you need to take positive and decisive action to solve it.

What they say..

“I’m doing really well. Probably the best I’ve been. I have to thank you for the tools you’ve given me to deal with issues.”

— BEA, MARKETING AGENCY OWNER

Case study:

Business coaching uncovers the real issue, and provides the lifelong solution

A client was struggling with spending too much time and emotional energy on the wrong customers

Instead of focusing on increasing success for the easy-going clients, they were spending time on trying to satisfy those who weren't able to be satisfied.

They knew on consultation calls that they should say “no” to certain customers, but still didn’t

They had a good feel for something feeling wrong, but didn't follow through with that.

They also realised a “how we work” document would help them build boundaries

The wrong customers would say "no" to this way of working, and the right customers would also stop encroaching on their personal time.

However, they were uncomfortable with being as clear as they’d like to be in this document

Writing this document was a struggle though, but they didn't like how they sounded in it.

Email communication also felt weaker than they’d like

They still wouldn't allow themselves to be more clear and forthright, even though they know it was right to do so.

We uncovered a feeling of responsibility for others, underpinned by a lack of confidence

They were always worrying about "how others would take it" when they were clear, because they didn't feel they could be honest. Their needs didn't matter.

We developed skills to build awareness, create options and choose an appropriate path

The client learned new skills to allow them to have a more balanced view of their needs versus their customers.

They started to design outcomes that put themselves first

Sometimes it was relevant to put the customers needs first, but other times it wasn't, and they discovered the difference.

And we worked together on the confidence issues that were at the root of these challenges

They started to feel more confident when they realised that the right customers would react well, and we engaged together on other confidence building exercises.

They slowly transformed into someone who mattered most to themselves

Eventually, it became more comfortable expressing and enforcing their own boundaries, which reduced their stress and allowed them to build more success for the right customers. They had learned how to stop people pleasing.

Why is this people pleasing happening?

Often, business owners blame their challenges on a lack of skills or knowledge​

Your people pleasing patterns are often actually what's holding you back from achiving the business and life success you crave.

Let's be clear: You have the intelligence and ability needed to grow or expand your business

If you're willing to break out of life and business patterns, like people pleasing, that are holding you back, you can succeed.

How does business coaching with me help?

I’m an expert at spotting your patterns through your actions and language

You won't be aware of these yet, which is why you end up taking the same unsuccessful paths time and again, in this case with the wrong customers taking all of your time.

Over time, you'll come to recognise your people pleasing before it happens

As we work together, you'll discover how to move away from your reliance on this life pattern.

You can then choose to experiment with new paths that could prove more successful

You can prevent yourself from automatically and repeatedly choosing the same unsuccessful paths, allowing you to discover more effective paths.

Get FREE access to my online video course "17 lessons to $20million" - my own journey ​

By booking your free discovery session, I'll give you access to my course which details key elements of my own journey, worth £300.​

What they say..

“The difference from my first session to now is life changing for me. The growth is so wonderful”.

— SARA,ENTREPRENEUR

5 questions to ask your people pleasing self

1. What will happen to your business if you stopped people pleasing?

How will your future prospects change?

2. Think of a time you people pleased recently. What would it feel like if you had done what you really wanted instead?

It's likely there will be both positive and negative emotions.

3. What does people pleasing protect you from?

What is the positive intention behind people pleasing? Do you know?

4. What would it feel like to let go of the guilt and responsibility you have for others?

How would you change?

5. Are you willing to continue being a people pleaser?

The choice remains yours.

Who am I?​

I'm Phil Drinkwater, a leading transformational business and life coach who supports clients in discovering how to maximise their potential

I'm a Certified Coach with a totally unique approach that will help you understand your people pleasing, and why that leads to the challenges you're facing with your business.

I'll support you in your journey as you move on.

I’ve run my own successful online non-coaching business with up to 20 employees for 22 years

My own people pleasing helped me gain a great deal of knowledge about how it affects business.

I've created a programme which will help you to move on from yours.

I'm also psychology trained

I'm aware that our needs, thoughts and emotions determine whether we succeed or fail, and how we can change these to produce a more success-oriented mindset.

What they say..

“Before business coaching, I didn’t believe I could have what I really wanted, and I settled for second, third and fourth best. Now I’m moving forward with what I really want.”

— CHELSEA, EVENTS BUSINESS OWNER

How will we begin coaching?

What will happen in our Free Discovery Session?

We'll get to know each other, and gain an understanding of what's happening for you, and how people pleasing is happening and impacting you.

If you're nervous, I'm incredibly kind

We'll go at your speed. I'm a very understanding person, so after a short time you'll feel more confident. But if you'd prefer a gentler start to coaching, we can do that too.

All coaching is done online to keep costs accessible to all

Since lockdown, people are more used to working remotely in different ways. I can coach you from afar just as well as in person.

Get FREE access to my online video course "17 lessons to $20million" - my own journey

By booking your free discovery session, I'll give you access to my course which details key elements of my own journey, worth £300.​

How will we continue?

Purchase single sessions, or a discounted package of 6 or 12 sessions

I'm flexible to fit in with your needs. Single sessions are £179.

In coaching we'll discuss challenges, resistance and how to design an amazing life and business

We can talk about anything that's useful to you, but we'll focus on what's challenging and why you're resistant to certain paths. We'll also determine how you work best, and how all of this fits into the life you truly want.

We'll meet every 2 to 3 weeks, usually

I suggest we meet every 2 to 3 weeks, depending on schedules. This allows you to take actions so we can evaluate the effectiveness for you.

What they say..

“In just one session, Phil took me from a place of apprehension to one of clarity and confidence. We spent time working out what things I need in order to achieve job satisfaction”.

— MARA, NEW MANAGER

I'm a leading transformational business & life coach who helps clients maximise their potential

I'm trained and Certified and have a totally unique approach to solving your business challenges.

For 22 years, I’ve built my own successful business

And throughout, my failures have been my greatest learnings.

I'm psychology trained

Our thoughts, emotions and needs are where we'll win the battle for success in business.

If you're nervous about coaching, let's chat on email a bit first, before booking a discovery call.

Not everyone is comfortable with the idea of coaching, and, if that's you, maybe you'd like to know a bit more about the process before booking an online call.
That's OK!
Let's chat a bit on email before taking the next step. And, honestly, you'll be fine since I'm incredibly kind.
Or email phil@phildrinkwater.coach

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